Finding Control and Alignment When Life Gets Hard

One of the hardest things for me to do is ask for help. In moments of darkness, I know that I need to use my resources and coping skills to find the light, but getting the flame to light is easier said than done. Rest, take risks, keep yourself safe and also take control of your life. 

When I talk about bridging the gap between action and intention, I am focusing on behavior and mindset. This concept is universal. It can be applied to anything that comes your way. And as I move through different seasons of my life, I take my own advice with me. And yes, it’s hard to follow. 

When I’m going through a hard time, it can feel like life is happening to me, rather than for me or because of me.

When outside obstacles are coming in and taking over, it feels like this life I have created is not mine. And the last thing I want to do is think about intentional change. This fear, pressure or shame can be all consuming and incredibly convincing. However, if I can’t find control in the outside world, I can work each and every muscle to maintain my mindset and admit when I need help. When the wheel seems as if it’s being turned by someone else, I stop, rest, take risks, keep myself safe and lean into my alignment. That’s how and when I take control of my life. 

When I speak of alignment, I am encouraging you to prioritize your needs. When the little voice in my head says to ask for help, the louder one screams, “No, you don’t need it! You should be ashamed.” In order to reach alignment, you must listen to that little voice and successfully fill that need. Validate yourself, find some rest, take a risk, keep yourself safe and make the decisions that you can make. Ask for as much help as you truly need and allow the good work you have done to guide you through the tough time.